I re-read the title once again, thought about it, and concluded that even though I may not be the guru of describing engineering concepts and such, it still summarizes the task I am facing pretty succinctly.
I will try to describe the issues I am struggling with using a few more words - something might still be missed due to the brevity of the title.
1. I am exploring my option for converting a three-way switch (traditional wiring - no automation of any kind anywhere) into a four-way, i.e., controlling a load from three rocker switches instead of the current two.
2. There is a "traveler/control wire" between the two switches currently enrolled in this setup - in addition to the hot and neutral, as required by the traditional wiring setup for n-way switches.
3. The third switch - the one I would like to add to the setup - is not being used for any purpose, but does have power. It does not have the "traveler/control" wire links to anything.
4. If I were to run that "traveler/control wire" to the third switch I might as well just set it up again in a traditional wiring fashion - with no need for any automation. In other words, there is no gain for me in this situation - in terms of functionality. If, on the other hand, I could avoid having to install that additional "traveler/control wire" however, I would perceive that as a significant gain.
5. I was looking into these automation technologies that could potentially provide the solution - without additional wires - but *all* manufacturers that I was able to find state that these "traveler/control wires" are still required for any n-way switch setup -
http://www.homecontrols.com/homecontrols/products/pdfs/PC-PulseWorx/PCSWXWSXR15x_QuickStartGuide.pdf
http://www.homecontrols.com/homecontrols/products/pdfs/PC-PulseWorx/PCWS1R15x_QuickStartGuide.pdf
http://www.simply-automated.com/documents/Datasheet_USR-40A_100624.pdf
http://www.leviton.com/OA_HTML/ProductDetail.jsp?partnumber=35A00-3§ion=63228&minisite=10251
6. The packaged solution that was suggested as a workaround is something pre-programmed by the manufacturer and explicitly would not work with any other automation tricks that the user may want to add in the future. The only positive I see in this is that it proves that it is possible to set up an n-way switch without the "traveler/control wires" by using just the features of the UPB configuration of the switches. However, no one so far was able to confirm that and there seem to be no references to any such things in the UPStart manual.
I do not see programming the switches myself as a deterrent - in fact, I would strongly prefer to program something myself than sticking in something that I do not fully understand in terms of how it works and cannot re-program if I want to.. The only additional cost here appears to be the gateway or interface - about $300 - which can be justified if I can gain an ability to program switches at will.
The other components are either free or already paid for - UPStart is free and everyone has computers in their homes these days. One other piece of hardware that I might still need to purchase is the phase coupler, which does not appear to be prohibitively expensive. But, but, but, I don't want to spend any of that money if it would not give me what I am seeking to accomplish with all these toys.